Year One of Marriage: What I’ve Learned and N**** We Made It!
It’s amazing how the time flies, especially as people say, when you are in love…or is it having fun? Oh well, roll with it. The last two years have been life changing for me. I got engaged and a year later we got married. Today, we have completed our first year of marriage together. We had a few downs but quadruple the ups but marriage to my friend has been totally worth it.
A couple of things I want to share with you, that I am still learning are listed below.
Love and marriage are work–but the good kind. The work it takes to stay happy and committed to each other will only help our relationship flourish.
What you think is obvious is NOT obvious. So, as it turns out that when I have an attitude or am slightly frustrated and I’m not talking much, he really doesn’t know why! If I want him to do something, understand me or fix it…I have to tell him. Plain and simple. But, believe it or not, that’s very hard for me. So, I am still working on not waiting hours or days to tell him why I was mad ‘the other day,’ or what I was mad about.
Say thank you as much as possible. Hubby is very good about it, I am a work in progress.
Say I love you all the time.
Communication. Don’t shut down. I am the queen of ignoring people, but again, I am a work in progress… so is he. 🙂
Patience and compromise are also some words I have become very familiar with. It’s not always about me or him, but us. We are both learning to pick our battles.
We are learning to adopt to life together. We were both single and living alone, so just having another person in the house is new to me. But, I am loving it and embracing his company. We are becoming a great team. Taking on new challenges. We are getting stronger–together!
Remember it is not always feelings of cotton candy and butterflies, real life happens and we have to rise to the occasion with love and support. Have each others backs no matter what. He’s my partner and I’ve got him ALL DAY!
We have always and will continue to play, have fun and enjoy each others company. That’s what I love the most. I love when he listens to me ramble about work and friends. But I also try to respect his ‘me time,’ so long as we have together time. I hope you’ve enjoyed this candid look at lessons learned. I can’t wait to share our next milestone with you.
Happy Valentine’s Day! XOXOX