Friend or snitch?
There was a block of time that I was seeing everyone’s man in the street with other women. My approach depended on my relationship with the woman. This is going to be a tricky topic for those who feel like I should mind my business in any case. No matter what or who is involved. To those individuals I say tune in to 20/20’s What Would You Do– then follow up with me at a later date.
See if it changes your perspective if the Timberlands or Coach loafers were on the other foot. I am a woman first, and a friend to few. So don’t confuse this with some kind of player hater crusade that I lead. I would only tell a woman that is dear to me of any foul play in her relationship. They are the only ones that I would be 100% positive about their current relationship status. So, the first girl was my best friend for many years.
We were continuing our journey at a college of our choice and she’d begun to date a local guy from the area who also attended the university. I was home on a weekend break with my random guy of the hour, and who do I see? I knew his car because it was always parked nearby, and it was different from most college kids rides. I made my presence known and he proceeded to wrap his arm around the woman he was with in what I would say was more friendly than friends.
There was another girl, who was my friend, more like a sister. My beau (at the time) and I would swap stories about our friends and their relationship. We eventually realized that we were talking about two different women but the same man. My ex explained it to my friend for me, assuring her that he was only telling her because of his love for me. He had a relationship with the other woman and had a certain obligation to her in the situation as well that should have kept him from even discussing her business.
We both probably, shouldn’t’ have been discussing either of them so candidly. Needless to say, I am no longer friends with either of these women. I know for sure that one of them is still with the cheater, once cheater sounds better. The other I am not sure. I thought I was being a good, no damn that! A GREAT friend for making them aware that they were not dating the men they thought they were. Or that the relationship was not quite what it promised.
I want one of my friends, not an associate (someone who heard I was dating my man) to tell me of a concrete situation where my man looked to be in a compromising situation. Don’t sit around and tell everyone else about it. Address me, and let me handle it. Now if you or whomever decide to stay with the guy, that’s your choice. And I could care less. But why am I the one who loses in the end?