Marriage| Things I’ve Learned In Our Two Years of Marriage
Happy Anniversary to me and my love and Happy Valentine’s Day to you all!
Can you guys believe that I have been married for two years (well on the 14th)?It seems like it was just the other day I was deciding on a dress, what flowers I would carry and how I would wear my hair. I didn’t have to decide on how much I loved my future husband, that part was a no brainer. As the years (haaa, I can use plural because we are at 2 years now) start to add up day by day, I love him even more. Marriage is beautiful- no matter what you’ve heard or read. It is a safe place for me because I know that he is learning and growing next to me. I know that we will protect each other at any cost. But marriage is work, but you don’t mind it when you know both of you are totally worth it. Here are a few things I’ve learned during our two years of marriage.
Communication is everything. In my One Year of Marriage post, I expressed the importance of sharing your feelings. The other person doesn’t know if you are upset or why if you don’t tell them.
Compromise is necessary. We are individuals first. And we grew up with different experiences, so instead of always trying to force my way down his throat, we have to find a middle ground that will work for both of us.
We all make mistakes. I make plenty of them. We’re not perfect, nor shall we ever be, and most importantly we should not expect perfection from ourselves or our spouse. Marriage requires patience, encouragement, and forgiveness. Holding onto grudges benefits no one.
Having a sense of humor is critical. Some of the best times I have with my husband is when we are being silly. Laughing at ourselves, our mistakes, or quirks keeps our relationship honest and fun. He is so much fun to be around.
Marriage has challenged me to be better. I’ve read that marriage can reflect and often times amplify your own faults. Some things that I do, some of my behaviors didn’t mean as much before because no one had to deal with it but me. But now, some of those same things can affect him in a negative way. Challenging myself to do better and to be better is essentially helping me to become not only a better person but a better wife.
My husband gives me a lot of insight on various situations and he has really taught me how to process various feelings and thoughts. I love that he doesn’t sweat much. He says now I know, and he moves on. It’s quite amazing to be honest. I am more of a be angry, mention it over and over again kind of person. I’m not talking about between he and I, but different friendships and work relationships. Learning to not hold grudges is a struggle for me, but again, he and our marriage are simply helping me to become a better person. Knowing that we are in this together and that he wants what’s best for me just as much as I want what’s best for him is an indescribable feeling. It is an overwhelming sense of gratefulness and joy. I love him and I am thankful to God for allowing me to find such a kindred spirit and heart to share my life with.