Marriage| Things I’ve Learned In Our Two Years of Marriage

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Happy Anniversary to me and my love and Happy Valentine’s Day to you all! 

Can you guys believe that I have been married for two years (well on the 14th)?It seems like it was just the other day I was deciding on a dress, what flowers I would carry and how I would wear my hair. I didn’t have to decide on how much I loved my future husband, that part was a no brainer.  As the years (haaa, I can use plural because we are at 2 years now) start to add up day by day, I love him even more. Marriage is beautiful- no matter what you’ve heard or read. It is a safe place for me because I know that he is learning and growing next to me. I know that we will protect each other at any cost. But marriage is work, but you don’t mind it when you know both of you are totally worth it. Here are a few things I’ve learned during our two years of marriage. 

Communication is everything.  In my One Year of Marriage post, I expressed the importance of sharing your feelings. The other person doesn’t know if you are upset or why if you don’t tell them. 

Compromise is necessary. We are individuals first. And we grew up with different experiences, so instead of always trying to force my way down his throat, we have to find a middle ground that will work for both of us. 

We all make mistakes. I make plenty of them. We’re not perfect, nor shall we ever be, and most importantly we should not expect perfection from ourselves or our spouse.  Marriage requires patience, encouragement, and forgiveness. Holding onto grudges benefits no one. 

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Having a sense of humor is critical. Some of the best times I have with my husband is when we are being silly. Laughing at ourselves, our mistakes, or quirks keeps our relationship honest and fun. He is so much fun to be around. 

Marriage has challenged me to be better. I’ve read that marriage can reflect and often times amplify your own faults.  Some things that I do, some of my behaviors didn’t mean as much before because no one had to deal with it but me. But now, some of those same things can affect him in a negative way. Challenging myself to do better and to be better is essentially helping me to become not only a better person but a better wife.

 My husband gives me a lot of insight on various situations and he has really taught me how to process various feelings and thoughts. I love that he doesn’t sweat much. He says now I know, and he moves on. It’s quite amazing to be honest. I am more of a be angry, mention it over and over again kind of person. I’m not talking about between he and I, but different friendships and work relationships. Learning to not hold grudges is a struggle for me, but again, he and our marriage are simply helping me to become a better person. Knowing that we are in this together and that he wants what’s best for me just as much as I want what’s best for him is an indescribable feeling. It is an overwhelming sense of gratefulness and joy. I love him and I am thankful to God for allowing me to find such a kindred spirit and heart to share my life with.

-Donna Shana  

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  • Congratulations!!! It gets easier from now on :-). All good points. I definitely a good sense of humor is crucial. Even when l’m mad at the hubby, l always remember how much he makes me laugh, and it makes things better. Here’s to many more years for you both.

  • Donna Shana

    Goof technique! To think about how he makes you laugh even when you’re mad. I like that! And thanks for the well wishes!

  • I will be married 18 years this year and have learned so much. I know we can do anything together. We must communicate. Allow each other to have a voice. Compromise. Understanding.

    The list goes on.

  • Donna Shana

    Wow! Congrats on 18 years of marriage!

  • Communication is definitely the most essential part of every relationship, especially marriage. Having been married 14 I can honestly say that once we learned this skill that it’s been smooth sailing and better than I thought it could be. Keep loving each other! #marriagethatworks

  • Congrats!! Communication and Compromise is very important in any relationship. Sounds like you are off to a wonderful life together.

  • Happy Anniversary! I’m not married yet, I’m still working and learning how to communicate properly.

  • Happy Anniversary! I’ve been married ten years and most of these lessons will stay the same, just evolve and have deeper meaning. Your relationship reminds me of my husband and mine because I just wrote a post about how grateful I am for his patience (something that I’m learning to grow, but have never really had lol), Keep these lessons and words of wisdom by your side and you’ll be easing your way through a lifetime of happiness 🙂

  • Kim

    Compromising and understand are so important in marriages.

  • Donna Shana

    Awh! I love that. Love to see people make it! Thanks for the encouragement and feedback

  • Congrats and amen to all of this! It’s no cakewalk, but such a beautiful journey!

  • Congratulations!! Marriage is a beautiful thing. With comprise and communication you’ll always come out winning! Happy Anniversary!

  • Congrats on making it to two years! My husband and I are closing in on three years and I agree so much with all that you have written. You last point “Marriage has challenged me to be better” is so poignant. It’s like you’ve got no choice but to work on YOU so you can help your marriage be it’s absolute best. Continued blessings to you and your hubs.

  • Happy Anniversary! Definitely key points to making your relationship last.

  • Tyra

    Communication is so key for a good marriage. It is what everything else is built on, for sure.